My name is Nanna and I am a 2nd year student from Denmark.
My first ceremony was a divorce ritual. I am a child of divorced parents and I have worked with couples in crisis as a counsellor as well as witnessing divorces for friends and family my whole life. I was part of a break-up of a long relationship, and though we were not married the breakup was deeply painful and difficult to heal.
In writing this ritual I connected to places in me that needed healing and moving around. In this landscape of the ritual I was suddenly able to see my former partner in another light. I believe a ritual no matter how late it comes after a breakup can offer a sacred and healing space and a space for the creation of future relationships
My first year at the seminary was three years ago, and I remember looking forward so much to the 2nd year and the creation of ceremonies. For various reasons I waited two years before starting on my 2nd year, but I continued having monthly supervision with my mentor and still feeling very connected to the training. During all that time my first ceremony somehow brewed in me, but I also knew I needed to know more about ceremonies and rituals before creating it.
At the beginning of the 2nd year we learned how to consciously create a ceremony, and it was a relief to finally put my ideas on paper after all that time waiting. I realized that my ceremony had initially been born out of a need from my childhood, and had been on my heart and mind since then. It was a moment of deep reverence to have a place and a form to express it in.
Writing the ceremony made me lose track of time completely. I went into a space of my own where the steps needed felt natural, and with only a few adjustments I wrote it all at once. Reading it to myself it suddenly spoke back to me and I realized that I had been part of creating a spiritual being who is the ritual. I sense this being when I read the ceremony now, and it moves me deeply. I am full of awe and wonder at having been part of this creative process — a vessel for spirit creating healing from a place of hurt.
Another part of creating my first ceremony was sharing it with my OneSpirit study group and class. Sharing it with my peers felt vulnerable at first but turned out to be a ceremony in itself, with its gentle and reassuring holding making me feel so supported and helped. The supervision of the class felt like a welcoming committee for my ceremony and offered it a place in the world.
The transformative power of ceremonies and rituals is endless — and it is my hope to offer divorce rituals in my future ministry.
Written February 2016. Nanna Boisen is in the class working towards ordaination in July 2016.