Karyl Cross


What was it that first called you to train as a OneSpirit interfaith minister? The process started in the wake of Diana (Princess of Wales) dying & 9/11 happening. Both had a profound effect on me in terms of bringing into focus issues around division, and how the world could benefit from embracing differences.

In what year were you ordained?    2010

What is your minister’s vow, and your relationship to it? ‘I promise to keep Honesty, Empathy, Love, Authenticity and Simplicity at the centre of all I do’. It sounds very simple but isn’t!  I try to live it on a daily basis. I didn’t realise at the time quite how much Vulnerability would also be at the fore!

What was the most important thing that changed in your life as a result of the training? I am more confident in myself, my path & my connection to the divine.

How does your ministry or your life’s purpose manifest in the world now? I passionately believe that, as Onespirit advertises itself as fully inclusive, this should be true.

As a member of the kink community, I am aware that there are many spiritual people who are shunned by ministers of all paths, due to assumptions about a lifestyle those ministers are not familiar with. I believe this group need to be recognised and ministered to as well, alongside ‘mainstream’ people.

My main focus is on healing; I have just set up (after many delays) my own business which offers healing therapies, mentoring (more flexible and my style than counselling) and also ceremonies etc, to those within the mainstream and kink communities.

What main sources of inspiration or guidance do you draw on for your continuing spiritual journey? My goddess, my peer group, my relationships with my husband and my partner - and my connection to the divine, which is strengthened by my kink practice and experiences.

Where is your ‘edge’ currently — what most challenges you on your path? The continued prejudice that I received an a minister that serves the Alternative community. I am aware that there are people, both in and outside of Onespirit, who disagree with my stance and the fact that Onespirit supports me in this. I can only go forward with an open heart, being as honest as I can.

Also as I suffer from several chronic illnesses, including fibromyalgia, it is a constant struggle to control the pain enough to do what I need to.

How do you envision your ministry developing in future? Ideally I’d like my business to increase to the point where I can do it full time and drop the day job - or at that very least move to a post that was more ministry/healing oriented that my business could operate alongside. I am currently looking into chaplaincy work.

Although I don’t wave a kink flag it is not something I hide. As the kink community slowly follows the same path that Pagans/LBGTQ+ have followed in ‘coming out’, I would hope that I am able to support this, and show that OneSpirit is behind this kind of freedom as well.